7 Ways To Improve Your Attitude

"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."

- Viktor Frankl

Attitude is everything. Yes, Everything.

It is more vital than events. It's more important than what's happened. Because attitude determines whether we are happy or unhappy, fulfilled or empty, the positive perspective assures us that we can never fail. A hopeful attitude guarantees internal success. Attitude - the altitude adjuster determines whether we fly high or low, crash or soar, glide or slide.

Anybody can have a positive attitude when things are going well. What really matters is its how you act when things are going badly that determines the strength of your character. An appropriate attitude means feeling hopeful in challenging times. Stop yourself. Count your blessings. Look for the good. Here are the magnificent 7 ways to improve your attitude:

1. Choose To Be Enthusiastic

Corporate presidents voted it the most valuable personality trait. It's the biggest single factor in successful selling. Think enthusiastically. Talk enthusiastically. Become enthusiastic by acting enthusiastic. Your thoughts and actions establish your level of enthusiasm.

2. Be Alive To Everything You Do

Walk fast. Put a bounce in your step. A vigorous, hearty handshake indicates you are glad to be alive and happy to be with the other person. A good smile radiates enthusiasm. Put spirit into your speech by varying the tempo, raising and lowering the pitch, changing the tone and modulation. Force yourself to act with enthusiasm, and soon you will feel enthusiastic.

3. Broadcast Good News

No one ever made a friend or accomplished anything worthwhile by transmitting bad news. Good news, on the other hand, promotes good will and spreads enthusiasm. The message, "Hey! I've got good news" gets the attention of everyone. Take sunshine to school or work. Always aim to make the person you talk to feel better than they otherwise would.

4. The Power Of Visualisation

Imagination powerfully influences successful outcomes. When imagination and willpower compete, the imagination always wins. Force of will never keep you striving for success, but proper visualisation will. All peak performers visualize success. Before you try to do anything, close your eyes and visualise yourself doing it well.

5. Positive Self-Talk

What did you say to yourself today? Did you moan and groan about everyone at school or work? Did you complain about your parents to your best friend? What we think is 100% reflected in how we feel. If all we think about is negative thoughts, our actions will be negative. Remember "I'm a 10! I'm Healthy! Wealthy! Happy! I do what I ought to do, when I ought to do it, whether I want to or not! No Debate! I love me!"

6. Love Others

How can we become more loving? By bringing encouragement, optimism, and hope to all that we meet. By helping others feel comfortable in our presence. By spreading joy and goodwill. By being concerned about the wishes and desires of others. By understanding, caring, accepting, and forgiving. By becoming more concerned about helping others achieve their individual desires.

7. Never Miss 1 to 6 Above

I think, I need not tell you the importance of this point!

Go, choose your Attitude and choose your own way!

Happiness And Self Power

People today appear to have lost direction in their lives, they lack enthusiasm and zest for life, failing to display gratitude for all the good things they already have in their life, like good health, partners, children, neighbours and friends as well as the life they have made for themselves through their work and achievements. To attract more happiness and success you must first be grateful for what you already have, this is lesson number one.

As consumerism takes over and the pursuit of money becomes more important today than good relationships and time spent with others, we must all be aware and not lose sight of exactly what life is all about, otherwise we are doomed to become trapped in a vicious circle of never having enough money to buy the bigger house, the newer car, luxurious holidays and designer clothes. I am not saying that you shouldn’t desire all these material possessions and a better lifestyle for ourselves, that is all possible when you shift your power to self power.   

Let us take a look at what self power relates to. It means that our internal reference point is our own self, our spirit. The opposite of self-referral is object-referral. In object-referral we are always influenced by objects outside the self, which include money, status, titles, circumstances, people, and things. In object-referral we are constantly seeking the approval of others to determine our self worth.

Power based on object-referral, however, is false power. Being ego-based power, it lasts only as long as the object of reference is there. If you have a certain title – if you’re the president of the country or the chairman of a corporation – or if you have a lot of money, the power you enjoy goes with the title, with the job, with the money. Ego-based power will only last as long as those things last. As soon as the title, the job, the money go away, so does the power.

Self power, your true self, which is your spirit, your soul, is completely free of those things. It is immune to criticism, it is fearless of any challenge, and it feels beneath no one. And yet, it is also humble and feels superior to no one, because it recognizes that everyone else is the same Self, the same spirit in different disguises.

Self power, is permanent, because it is based on the knowledge of the self. And there are certain characteristics of self power. It draws people to you, and it also draws things that you want to you. It magnetizes people, situations, and circumstances to support your desires. This is also called support from the laws of nature. It is the support of divinity; it is the support that comes from being in the state of grace. Your power is such that you enjoy a bond with people, and people enjoy a bond with you.

Self power therefore is that of bonding with others – a bonding that comes from demonstrating love to other people. This can only be established when you are as a person completely at one with yourself, good self esteem, confidence and self belief, and from this strong secure power base you understand that in order to receive more happiness, more success you have to be very grateful for all the good things you already have in your life. Start with demonstrating gratitude and you will attract happiness and success from the energy you are sending out.

Here are a few quotes taken from my book Simple Steps to Happiness that should help you to understand the importance of firstly loving yourself and then giving out love to others;
Happiness is achieved when you live by and demonstrate the three R’s
respect for self, respect for others, and responsibility for all your actions
   
Happiness is further achieved when your life is balanced and you feel good physically, mentally and emotionally about yourself, watch your confidence grow

We actually manufacture our own unhappiness by thinking unhappy thoughts – like; anger, hatred, I fear this, I’m worried about that. Replace with pleasant thoughts of love, kindness and generosity

Be positive to every person you come into contact with – remember your attitude is what marks your character, and when there’s righteousness and love in your dealings with others, there is happiness.

Give out something of yourself daily – a compliment, a favour, offer your time to help out willingly – make a mental note of how it makes you feel when you consciously help others

Make every person you meet or speak with, feel important, feel special, they will like you for the attention and kindness you show towards them, and what’s more you win friends

Count your blessings everyday – happiness comes from realising just how fortunate you are in life, there is always someone worse off than yourself, remember that

Happiness comes from seeing smiling faces of young children and babies – puts a lot of life’s problems you think you have, in perspective.

Happiness comes from making a difference to someone else’s life, some who maybe thinks, they have been forgotten, and no one cares, brighten their day

Your life will change when you change your attitude towards yourself and others.

Develop Confidence and Self Belief

You have within you an energy POWER BASE that once unleashed, through daily meditation, visualisation and powerful self talk, bring all your dreams into reality.

Research shows that self confident people have indestructible self-belief, nothing can take away their feeling of self-worth and they bounce back from situations again and again. You can feel like this too. You have all that it takes to go for what you want and ride the ups and downs that life inevitably brings.

To achieve any goal in life, you must believe you are going to be successful. If you don’t then you are likely to fail, so developing ‘self belief’ is an essential ingredient for fulfilling your potential as an individual.

When you ‘believe in yourself’ you are empowered to take control of your life, your talents and abilities, leading to improved self confidence and self esteem and renewed personality. Your life is 100% in your hands, so start making changes today.

So how can the power of Self Belief be harnessed and used for self improvement and advancement in one’s life.

Firstly self belief, self confidence and self esteem are all essential ingredients to you improving your life, when you truly ‘believe in yourself’ life becomes richer and much easier to deal with. You can achieve more, you have less stress and anxiety and you are ready, because your new levels of confidence and self esteem to grasp opportunities as they arise. You are confident to step out and go after what life is offering you, always be aware of the signs, the co-incidences that make things happen. You will be attracting through your confidence and personality situations that will lead towards the successes you seek.

And it is a great feeling to know that with your new found confidence and strong belief in yourself, you are now capable of making and standing by your decisions, and to rely on yourself in difficult situations and overcome any obstacle that life throws at you. To tackle greater challenges, stretch yourself beyond limiting beliefs that in the past has held you back, making you push harder to face any difficult situations with confidence.

In fact once achieved, Self Belief will open doors for opportunities through your renewed personality by raising one’s personal energy and awareness levels, which attracts more positive situations to you.

When opportunities appear, they are a sign for you to make a change, to move forward, take a risk, giving you the opportunity to grow and develop into new levels of yourself, embrace the power within. When you take risks to achieve more, you are moving out of limiting beliefs you have of yourself, which in the past have kept you stuck in mediocrity and unfulfilling situations.


But unfortunately most people today have not learned this simple philosophy of life, but instead just relate to being restless, unhappy, not sure why or perhaps not given any energy to thinking that things could be better for them. Then because of this negative thought process they go round and round in circles everyday stuck in their stressful situation and unhappiness.

Start today to make the changes for a new and better life for yourself and your loved one’s. Embrace the confidence and self belief that things are becoming better in your life, you are by taking this attitude and approach making a commitment to change and thus attract better situations and opportunities into your life.

This is the NEW YOU IN ACTION.

Let Love Replace Religion

…changing the face of religion as we know it…

Research shows that “Human beings have a deep desire to be connected to something greater than ourselves”
There is ‘no religion’ in heaven – just spiritual beings, who have transcended this life, with no attachments to any one religion.

On earth, we are all spiritual beings in a physical body. We have incarnated to develop ourselves, through our character to reach higher levels of fulfillment that brings happiness, to become a better person through love and generosity towards others.

Years ago religion was necessary to maintain order in society and to keep the masses from knowledge, learning and developing beyond their stations in life. Therefore people were generally kept down through fear  of the religious teachings who preached that God would punish people for not attending church or  who did not follow the Ten Commandments. Basically people lived in fear, they were frightened to step out of line frightened that they would be victimized and punished by the church and society. Therefore Religions played an enormous role in the past by controlling them through fear.

Taking a look at religion and spirituality, one would probably link the two very closely together, but in real terms the two are not connected at all. We all know what religion means; being a member of a church, an order, a tribe or congregation that has fixed beliefs of a particular God or Spirit and religion demands that one has to congregate weekly to stay connected to that order.

But spirituality is something quite different, and most people are not aware of this difference. Spirituality means ‘living your physical reality to the full’, if this is the true definition then perhaps spirituality is linked more to developing oneself firstly through self love, self awareness, confidence, self belief, and from that inner position of strength and power, love towards others in the world.

So why does the church and the world’s various religious orders, continue playing such a leading role in people’s lives today, when their approach to God, the Divine spirit has remained unchanged and has not recognised or incorporated the changes we have seen over the past decades, demonstrating that individuals are searching for something outside of themselves. People are feeling unfulfilled, restless and looking for answers to give more meaning to their life and they are not looking to religion to fill this gap, as churches have instead chosen to remain fixed and stuck in their teachings for centuries, totally shut off and unaware to accept that people today are looking for new approaches and alternative avenues to develop themselves.

Don't Just Dream About It – Do It !

Are you dissatisfied with your life? If the answer is yes and you want to make changes, you’re no longer content with things the way they are –why shouldn’t you have a better lifestyle, self image, career and happiness, making life more enjoyable for you and everyone connected to you. Your life can be more fulfilling, enjoyable and fun? I believe the average person can change their world, turn dreams into reality and create the life they really want.

The reality is that what you want and what you desire all starts with you. Throughout life we have seen that a very small percentage of society actually reach and fulfill their dreams. Why do some people achieve and others do not, when we all have the same opportunities in life. Well I believe it starts with the individual, the character, the self belief, the determination to succeed in life, never giving up on one’s dreams and visions of what can be achieved.

I don’t believe that some people have more luck than others, I believe you make your own luck in life and you do that firstly by understanding yourself, the type of person you are, where your strengths lie, then by developing self-belief, confidence, motivation and determination to never give up in the face of adversity. Everyone has problems in life, I don’t know anyone who hasn’t had it tough at some time, but the lesson is to find the solution to a problem, overcome it, and then move forward again with enthusiasm, towards your dreams.

The great achievers in life know this, they have studied it, they know themselves, their strengths, their weaknesses and they use their strengths to the best of their ability by putting themselves in a position where luck finds them.

We all have opportunities presented to us on a daily basis, most people unfortunately do not recognise them or take advantage of them to move forward, but instead they become fearful of something new, of making changes for advancement in life. Then wonder why they are restless, unhappy and unfulfilled in their life. Life’s about having a purpose, something to aim for, to believe in, and once on track your life will open up to the possibilities which awaits you.

The message is quite clear, in order to move forward grasp life and the opportunities you will have to be prepared to make changes, but that shouldn’t be daunting or horrific. Once change is accepted and initiated the fear factor disappears and the new challenges on offer will excite and stimulate you into stretching yourself beyond what you thought you were capable of. Your confidence and self-belief will soar.

You can now hopefully appreciate just how easy life is meant to be, it’s not meant to be difficult or stressful, that’s what happens when people do not flow with life and changes when the time is right. If you can learn one thing from me then I would like you to realise that what you have created so far in your life is the direct result of decisions you have made in the past. Some of those decisions might have been right and some might have been wrong. But learn that your mind, your actions, and self belief will now help you to make new decisions based on what you want, and where you want to go in life, and the exciting journey you will enjoy on the road to your success.

Don’t just Dream about it – Do It, is really ‘All About You’

True Wealth - Is Good Health

If you are blessed with good health then are a very fortunate person, and you have possibly developed the right attitude towards good health which will include a balanced lifestyle, positive thinking and lots of fun and laughter, with little excesses of any kind.

It has been proven over the many years of research that your body is a very powerful self healing mechanism, and if you want it to get on with the job of keeping you well, then you have to create the environment in which healing and harmony can work. Remember good health is a talent, it’s not a right – you have to WORK at it like you do a career or a hobby.

Let me explain this a little more. Your body is a pretty complex mechanism, and after thousands of years of research, we know so little about it workings, but one thing we do know is that, the fluids and secretions have to be very finely balanced. Too much blood sugar and you have diabetes, too few red corpuscles and you get anaemia, a drop in blood pressure and you pass out, an increase in the bloods clotting rate and you get a thrombosis. The mechanical balance is as sensitive as the chemical.

One thing that most people are not told by doctors is that most illnesses stem from negative emotions, yes I know that the pain, symptoms and discomfort of symptoms are real enough, if you have an ulcer it hurts. The pain is caused by a muscular contraction of the stomach lining. It is common knowledge that an ulcer is a result of stress – and most diseases are. Because you’ve allowed yourself to have tension instead of peace, stress instead of serenity, you made yourself ill.

For you to be in a state of GOOD HEALTH you have to have everything in your body in balance and any imbalances in your body, the basic cause of ill health, comes from your emotions. And your emotions are triggered by your attitude, your attitude towards yourself, positive or negative, and your attitude towards others.

Therefore your attitude determines your emotional wellbeing.

When your attitude is negative and you complain and moan, and are not grateful for what you have, and not seeing the good in yourself or others then this attitude will eventually will cause dis-ease and stress in your body. When you are constantly repeating negative thoughts of jealousy, hate, resentfulness, and self pity you are attracting negativity into the body and hence blocking the flow of vibrant positive energy which keeps you well.

Avoid as much as possible these negative emotions

•    PRIDE: excessive belief in one’s own abilities.  It has been called the sin   from which all others arise.
•    ENVY: the desire for other people’s personality, status, abilities or situation
•    GLUTTONY: an inordinate desire to consume more than that which one requires
•    LUST: an inordinate craving for the pleasures of the body
•    ANGER: is manifested in the individual who opts for anger and fury instead of love
•    GREED: is the desire for material wealth or gain, ignoring the realm of the   spiritual
•    SLOTH: a general laziness and avoidance of physical or spiritual work

Now the way to start on the road to good health is to change your attitude, because the triggers in your body that control the emotional balance and imbalances, are affected by ATTITUDE. You have to now start by replacing your negative emotions with good emotions of Love, Tolerance, Co-operation, Kindness, Compassion and Generosity which will bring about a balanced outlook and personality which will create a healthier body and mind.

A Winning Attitude

Have you ever wondered why some people are more success than others in life?

Well the answer is to do with one’s attitude, your attitude will determine the end result of any situation you are confronted with in life. Positivity will always win over negativity in any given situation. Love always wins it is the strongest energy in the universe and cannot be destroyed, so always choose love and positive thinking in your life.

Here are some examples of how adopting a positive attitude and how it can work for you;

Remember – the QUALITY OF YOUR LIFE is influenced by your attitude, towards yourself and towards others, which only you can control, so begin thinking positively right now.

Why is your attitude so important?

Because.... it affects, how you look, what you say and what you do, if affects how you feel both physically and mentally ... and it largely affects how successful you are in achieving your purposes in life.

What will a positive Attitude do for me?

It will help you to focus on the good things in life instead of looking at the negative things that you don’t like.

Can a positive attitude guarantee me success?

Well, life is as you know full of ups and downs – there are good times and bad times. But a positive attitude will help you make the most of opportunities as they arise and a positive attitude will help you cope better when faced with problems to deal with, which we all have.

In fact POSITIVE attitudes make everyday living better and.....
....LIFE more meaningful
....PROBLEMS easier to handle
....GOALS more attainable
....MISTAKES less disastrous
....YOUR FUTURE more exciting

A person with a good character and a positive attitude have certain characteristics that make an individual stand out from others, it magnetizes people and opportunities that results in renewed confidence and success.

Thinking positively you must remember that your success in life is not based on what has happened in the past by what can happen in the future. Never look back only ever forward, the new you is waiting to shine from new heights and levels of awareness from deep within.

A positive attitude and approach to others will assist you in your everyday life, the person who opens the door for a young mum carrying a baby will feel better in themselves by demonstrating kindness. The thoughtful act of giving up your seat to an old lady on a crowded bus, giving your time to a voluntary cause, helping a neighbour to overcome a problem, listening to others when they want to share something with you, shows compassion and consideration for others. All these kind deeds are positive and if everyone took the time to just offer a kind gesture to others in our busy lives, we would all be helping to spread the positive energy of love and kindness throughout the world.

Rosie

Three Simple Steps To Create What You Want Thoughts – Belief - Action

Do you know how powerful your thoughts really are? Are you fully aware that these thoughts, all 50,000 per day, are singularly the most powerful influences on everything that happens to you in your life and are the reason you have attracted the people you know, the house you live in and the car you drive?

In fact the sum total of everyone's thoughts is the very thing that shapes everything that exists, everything that has existed, and everything that will ever exist. You may ask then "if this is true then shouldn't it be possible to bring into existence anything we desire?"

Well the short simple answer is YES!

It is through the power of deliberate thought that we can create. While thought alone does have the power to bring tangible (cars, houses, boats) and intangible (peace, harmony and joy) things into existence often times this is not enough! Intention, or directed thinking and believing, is enough to create powerful enough thoughts to manifest anything we want but you must also add two other ingredients.

Firstly, your thoughts must be backed by emotion. The more powerful the emotion, the stronger the thought. It is essential to create within you the same feelings that you will have when you actually achieve your desire. You actually do this all the time only in the opposite direction. For example, you think of what you are afraid may happen and all of a sudden you feel frightened, tense and may even start to exhibit some physiological symptoms such as sweating or shaking or just get the shivers.

The First Key - begin to reverse this method of thinking. Think only of what you do want and conjure up the feelings associated with that. How will it feel to meet and marry that perfect person? How will it feel behind the wheel of that new Mercedes or in the kitchen of that new home?

The Second Key ingredient of the three is action! It is necessary to be prepared to take some action. This is a key point that many personal development gurus leave out! The action that you need to take will not be difficult, it will be enjoyable and feel right to you.

Each of us here on the planet plays their own special role in the complete operation of the Universe. We are all One, interconnected and interdependent. Your desires will almost always come through some form of action and through connection to other people. Remember we are all inter-dependent.

Your thoughts do have the power to completely change your life and circumstances. When thoughts are backed by emotion they become an unstoppable force that will carry you to wherever you want to go in life. But you must be willing to take the steps towards your desires when these steps are presented to you.

For example thinking and believing you will meet your soul mate will bring you vast opportunities for meeting him/her but you never will if you sit at home all day and do not venture outside! You may find that you begin to get asked to go to places more often or get invited to a place you have never been before. You may even accidently meet old friends or develop new friendships. This is the Universe setting you on a path to your desires. Take that invitation. Even if it is something you have no desire to do or somewhere you do not want to go, you should accept the invitation. Who knows who you may meet or where you may end up!

So remember the THREE keys to success

Key 1-THOUGHTS have power!

Key 2-THOUGHTS backed by STRONG EMOTION and BELIEF can change the very Universe and create ANYTHING you want

Key 3 - ACTION is the last key needed to bringing about your desires and living the life of your dreams.

Now get out there and start to CREATE!
And always REMEMBER to say THANK YOU and show GRATITUDE for what you already have!

Rosie

The Power Of Your Thoughts

Do you know how powerful your thoughts really are? Are you aware that these thoughts all 50,000 per day, are singularly the most powerful influences on everything that happens to you in your life and are the reason you have attracted the people you know, the house you live in and the car you drive.

You live in a box created by your thinking habits. You have the tool for changing who you are, by changing the pattern of your thinking.

A Winning Attitude Program

Following a very successful Presentation to 6th form Students at Seaford College, Petworth, West Sussex I am currently marketing the A Winning Attitude Program of Character and Attitude Development to Independent Schools across Hampshire and Sussex who have 5th and 6th form students.

At Seaford College all 120 students at 6th form level received a copy of the A Winning Attitude Book, following the Presentation, and I understand from the deputy head the following week, "the atmoshere is buzzing with the students dipping in and out of the book".

It is and always has been my aim in life to help as many individuals as I can, from all age groups. To assist them to bring out the very best of themselves, to achieve more of their potential as individuals by identifying and developing inner strength and confidence to create self belief, which is needed and is essential for personal success.

Testimonials
" I took away from the Presentation many vital lessons, which I have recently been trying to apply to my everyday life" Head Boy, Seaford College

"The Presentation has given the whole of the Sixth Form Students a real lift in their outlook on their academic studies and future aspirations" Head Teacher of 6th Form, Seaford College

I look forward to updating you again soon on this very exciting business development!

The Power Of Affirmations

If you think affirmations are some esoteric practice you could never see yourself doing, we’ve got news for you; you’re already giving yourself affirmations all the time, only negative ones. “I’m not good enough”, “I can’t do anything right”, “This isn’t going to work”, “I’m sick and tired of…”: every one of them coming true. Why not give at least equal attention to positive statements that affirm those aspects and qualities of you and your life that you’d like to be so?

Some may argue that negative affirmations are a distortion of the truth, that “I’m not good enough”, “I can’t do anything right”, “This isn’t going to work”, and “I’m sick and tired of…” are merely observations of what’s so. The truth, however, is that our thoughts create our futures, not our pasts. When we make any of the above statements, we are creating (or attracting) the next experience evidencing it. Our flippant statement isn’t so benign; it’s actually the substance of the chains keeping us bound.